— Eckhart Tolle
We don’t see reality as it truly is
One of the most significant discoveries on the inner leader journey is realizing how often we tell ourselves stories that aren’t true.
Then we fail to see reality as it truly is, and we do the wrong thing — or nothing at all.
Let’s take a simple example.
Has anyone ever cut you off in traffic?
What goes through your mind? What story do you tell yourself?
Do you feel slighted because you believe this person thinks they are more important than you? Do you think they are being reckless and endangering the lives of others?
These were two of my default responses whenever someone cut in front of me in the past.
The real reason this driver cut in front of you could be much different.
Have you ever needed to cut in line because you missed an exit sign? Or traffic prevented you from getting in line earlier?
Now, I dismiss whatever story arises and let the other driver slip in easily. (Warning: this can be very annoying to some passengers!)
Most of us aren’t very good at perceiving reality as it is. Most of what we “see” is shaped by our impressions, our history, our baggage, our preconceptions. We can’t see people as they really are because we’re too busy reacting to our own internal experiences of what they evoke in us, so we rarely actually relate to reality.— Peter Senge
Seeing reality more as it truly is
So how does one go about seeing reality more as it truly is?
The first place to begin is the simple awareness of how pervasively our internal stories are running our lives. According to Dr. Helena Lass, Psychiatrist and Awareness Teacher, “almost 99% of our lives are running on autopilot.”
More often than not, we get triggered by some event or stimulus that evokes an experience in us, and we respond accordingly without really thinking about it.
My interview with Dr. Lass was a real turning point for me in raising my awareness. She addressed this topic from multiple perspectives in such a compelling way that I was motivated to learn more and do something about it.
Awareness isn’t enough
But awareness is just the beginning. There is a period of integration that takes ongoing learning, practice, and discipline for most people.
In my online workshops, we explore many more ways to deepen the journey.
If you’d like to learn more, sign up to join the waitlist for the next public workshop.
Or, if you’d like to schedule a private workshop for your team, organization, or yourself, please email firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
To your forward thinking life & success!
Bill Fox, Author and Founder at Space Beyond Boundaries and Forward Thinking Workplaces.